My husband and I sat in the exam room, staring at our doctor in disbelief as she spoke. We had waited months for this appointment only to find out that we still would not have answers. We had come in expecting to see our baby and find out the gender. We had rearranged our schedules for the occasion, and I had even picked out a particular outfit. We had expected the anxiety of our questions to relieved. Now it was clear that we wouldn’t have answers, and we would have to wait longer. We found ourselves disappointed.
Disappointment: the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.
Have you found yourself disappointed? Expectations, hopes, and dreams flowing like a river only to stop abruptly at the dam of disappointment. While my husband and I had at least been given a timeline of our next doctor’s appointment, most disappointments do not give a resolution date. We don’t know when our health will be better, when a work situation will improve, or when a friendship will be whole again. Not only are we clueless about timelines, but we also wonder will our hopes even be fulfilled. As we walk through times of disappointment, we must remind ourselves of the Truth in the midst of a storm.
Doubt and grief are normal.
We can find ourselves asking the same question Job asked himself, “Where is my hope? Who can see any hope for me?” As you walk through life’s hard situations, you unravel your fears, frustrations, and failures. Don’t be afraid to honestly express your tears and anger to God through prayer. By turning to God in our times of doubt and grief, we find someone who will wipe our tears away and provide us comfort in the midst of the uncomfortable. While He may not provide answers immediately, He will provide relief from the weight we carry.
In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the Lord – 1st Samuel 1:10
Others help us heal.
Proverbs 13:21 bluntly states that deferred hope can literally make our hearts ill. Just like when one faces any illness, it is normal to find ourselves uncomfortable, worn-out, and frustrated. During the disease of disappointment, we must seek the remedy of friends’ love, encouragement, and support. Sometimes others have the words to pray that we physically and emotionally are unable to pray for ourselves.
Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. – James 5:14-15
Hope fulfilled is in our future.
In past disappointments I’ve experienced, I have found that God has only said no because there was something bigger waiting further in the future. Disappointment faced led to a hope fulfilled. Only, that hope frequently is different than our initial desire. He shows us love and protection, it’s just different than we desire. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts.
The eyes of all look to you, and you give them their food at the proper time. You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing. – Psalm 145:15-16
While today may be exhausting and uncertain, trust that God has a plan for you to rest in peace and to be whole. What you once saw as a barrier of disappointment will be the very foundation of the new hope God has for you.